THE HUMAN BEING VS THE HUMAN DOING

Do you focus on tasks, goals, actions and accomplishments?

It is easy to believe that value comes from external sources. You are only valued or seen if you have achieved something, accomplished a goal or completed a target that is already valued by society. However, as human beings we are also having to navigate relationships, emotions, and our mental health in this ever changing and on-demand world. We barely have time to reflect and look inwards at our own set of beliefs, values and attitudes and use these to give ourselves validation, in whatever way is needed.

Do we live in an achievement culture that worships at the alter of accomplishments?

Do you need to accomplish things to feel good about yourself? How as a human being can you define your self-worth, if not through accomplishments?

Here are some tips to step into ‘being’ more than ‘doing’

• Accept your humanity - no one is perfect, we all have flaws.

• Redefine success - broaden it beyond wealth, status and other accomplishments. Explore creative avenues, getting satisfaction and enjoyment out of pursuing a personal goal.

• Create more balance - it’s about the balance of the being and the doing.

• Reduce your to-do list. Are you just stacking it up and pushing yourself towards the impossible? Lighten the load.

• Become more flexible - do you have to have lots of structure?

• Lighten up - don’t be so serious.

• Give self-love - let go of any culturally driven or self-made guardrails that limit when it is appropriate to value and care for yourself.